March 7, 2024
Inner Critic Messages

Common Messages from the Inner Critic

The inner critic’s purpose is to uphold the Enneagram type’s rules and specific ways of being. What makes it especially tricky is that sometimes the voice of the inner critic […]
February 12, 2024

Exploratory Questions and Discussion Prompts

These exploratory questions and discussion prompts may be supportive for a study group, book club, or for deepening your personal exploration of Roxanne Howe-Murphy’s newest book in the Deep Living […]
February 12, 2024

Integrating the Power of Presence

In Chapter Four of Underneath Your Personality Roxanne explains the relationship between our innate centers (the grounded body, open heart, and quiet mind) and presence.  “Our heightened awareness of these […]
January 10, 2024

Underneath Your Personality

The search is over. Underneath Your Personality: Discover Greater Well-Being through Deep Living with the Enneagram By Roxanne-Howe-Murphy, EdD   What does the Enneagram have to offer to your well-being? […]
January 2, 2024

Interact with Agency and Compassion

Join us on Thursday, January 25th for this engaging session on the Wisdom of Enneagram Social Styles. [The Enneagram] reveals major patterns that exist in life –some of which are […]
December 20, 2023

Observing Choices

This practice is adapted from Guidebook for Deep Living by Moira McCaskill with Laurie Scott Cummins. As you go about your day, pay attention to the situations you encounter and […]
November 29, 2023
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Journaling Practice

First, read the poem “Guest House” by Rumi. “Guest House” by Rumi “This being human is a guest house.Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness,some momentary […]
May 19, 2023

Just Published: Guidebook for Deep Living

Guidebook for Deep Living by Moira McCaskill with Laurie Scott Cummins What is possible when you explore your life with curiosity and compassion?  A companion to Deep Living with the […]
March 31, 2023

Presence as a Source for Change

“Showing up with presence is in itself a powerful source for change. This is a radical departure from believing that we have to fix ourselves or fix others before real […]
March 8, 2023

Maintaining Boundaries with an Open Heart

One type of practice in the Deep Living framework is bringing attention to and sensing into your heart. This can involve noticing sensations, emotions, and developing a close relationship with this precious part of you.
March 3, 2023

Four Tips for a Powerful Personal Retreat

At the core of having authentic relationships with others is the spiritual heart, and engaging with it requires something different from us.
March 3, 2023

Four Stages of Heart Consciousness

At the core of having authentic relationships with others is the spiritual heart, and engaging with it requires something different from us.
February 16, 2023

Reveal Your Inner Strength

Have you ever felt lost and disconnected from yourself? Perhaps you’ve reflected on a situation where your inner critic seemed to take over, or it was difficult to disengage from a familiar sense of, “this is just who I am!”
November 14, 2022

Experience Curiosity from a Quiet Mind

What is the difference between experiencing curiosity from a quiet mind versus from a busy mind? In a recent conversation with Deep Living Lab Facilitator Samuel Schindler, we reflected on […]
November 1, 2022

Irma’s Deep Living Journey

When her son was diagnosed with autism at the age of three, Irma Velasquez was devastated. It was the pre-internet era of the early 1990s, and both information and experts […]
October 31, 2022

Just Published! Fish Dreams by Irma Velasquez

Fish Dreams: A Mother’s Journey From Curing Her Son’s Autism to Loving Him as He Is By Irma Velasquez, Deep Living Lab Board Co-Chair Deep Living Lab is proud to […]
October 27, 2022

The Enneagram as a Map of Love

When we are lost or embark on a new adventure, we often seek direction.  Fortunately, at the click of a button, we can type into Google Maps where we are […]
September 7, 2022

Big Trust Comes from Tiny Choices

There is a natural rhythm to our lives that is built on trust. When we trust, we grow, and to grow, we must shift from old unconscious patterns, which no […]
August 29, 2022

Just Released! Deep Coaching Using the Enneagram, Second Edition

Second Edition of Deep Coaching: Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change, by Roxanne Howe-Murphy. Built on the foundations of the 2007 book, and with over 40% new or revised […]
August 11, 2022

Welcome Kerrigan Cross!

We are thrilled to welcome Kerrigan Cross to our growing team as the Administrative & Operations Manager. Kerrigan brings a breadth of experience in project management and is interested in […]
July 27, 2022

Self-Acceptance as a Pathway to Compassion

Our deepest yearning is for connection: to love and be loved. Paradoxically, we often veer away from exactly what we most want.
June 22, 2022

Join Our Team! Marketing Director

The Marketing Director will build the visibility of a holistically supportive, engaging, and inclusive set of offerings based on Roxanne Howe-Murphy’s book, Deep Living with the Enneagram: Recovering Your True […]
May 20, 2022

Welcome Diana Redmond!

We are thrilled to welcome Diana Redmond to our growing team as Experiential Learning Director! Diana brings a depth of experience with the Enneagram, is committed to presence-based work, and […]
March 25, 2022

Three Practices to Awaken Who You are Beyond Enneagram Type

Tears streamed down my face as several pairs of eyes watched me open my birthday gifts and cards with heartfelt messages. All at once, my heart swelled with gratitude, while […]
March 25, 2022

Welcome to A New Season

As we enter a new season, what is emerging for you?What has been lying dormant that needs to see the light of day, that asks for your tender care and […]
March 8, 2022
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Ukraine Is In Our Hearts

Our hearts are being shattered as we bear witness to yet another horrific iteration of destruction, violence, and unimaginable suffering. At Deep Living Lab, we believe the key is right here, facing and within each of us. And it is here that we must start.
March 1, 2022

Charting a Path Forward

Dear Deep Living Community,  It’s hard to believe we have only been with Deep Living Lab for a few months now. Looking ahead to the horizon of possibility, we feel […]
March 1, 2022

Five Steps to Embodied Resilience

During our recent course, The Enneagram As An Embodied Deep Living Journey, Brian Mitchell-Walker and Devon Carter led us through a variety of practices, which develop our capacity for resilience.  […]
January 14, 2022

A Meditation to Pivot From Busyness to Stillness

Our heart calls for us when heartache has left us feeling dark.  At times we have unknowingly denied ourselves access to energy that is deep, mysterious, wild, and sometimes scary.  […]
December 17, 2021

The Wellness Enneagram: Optimal Wellbeing of Body, Heart, Head, and Soul Video with Dr. Avon Manney

In case you missed it or would like to watch again, Dr. Avon Manney presents, “The Wellness Enneagram: Optimal Wellbeing of Body, Heart, Head, and Soul,” at the 2021 Enneagram […]
December 17, 2021

Meditation For A New Year Intention

Dear Fellow Travelers, Each of us has been given the gift of life. Every moment is a reminder of the fragile state of  precious Earth. As our planet begins another […]
December 14, 2021

What Are You Holding That Needs to Be Released?

Dear Deep Living Community, Here we are, having nearly completed another revolution around the sun. Our collective journey has led each of us to this right-now moment. As 2021 comes […]
December 14, 2021

The Enneagram as a Self-Empowering Coaching Master and Guide with Roxanne Howe-Murphy, EDd

In case you missed it or would like to watch again, Roxanne Howe-Murphy, EDd presents, “The Enneagram as a Self-Empowering Coaching Master and Guide,” at the 2021 Enneagram Global Summit. […]
November 18, 2021

Authentic Gratitude

Dear Deep Living Lab Community, As we enter the holiday season, I’d like to share a brief excerpt from my unpublished and upcoming book where I’ll be introducing the EnneaCrossings™: […]
October 7, 2021

Welcome to Our New Executive Directors!

Read Barbara Mathison’s Letter Here Read Liz Vanderwerff’s Letter Here Dear Deep Living Lab Community, It is with full hearts and open arms that we welcome our first Deep Living […]
August 24, 2021

The Belly Center – Our Anchor Brain

The Shape of Center, Part One This blog will be the first in a three-part series exploring our sensory connection to the Three Centers of Intelligence: Belly, Heart, and Head, with […]
July 1, 2021

Embodied Presence and The Ground Of Being

Listen to the article here: Listen to the Grounding Meditation here: We are born from a body, into a body, and it is through the body that we come to […]
June 4, 2021

Roxanne Returns to Dr. Farish’s Show on Voice America

Mark your calendars! Roxanne’s second interview with Voice America’s Dr. Jean Marie Farish will be released on Friday, June 18th!⁠⁠The episode will be available for streaming or download at the […]
May 28, 2021

Deep Living Lab is Looking for an Executive Director

We are hiring! Last month we announced the evolution of the Deep Living Institute into our new nonprofit, the Deep Living Lab (DLL).  And today we are delighted to announce […]
May 19, 2021

Winner of BPFA Benjamin Franklin Award

We’re grateful for the prestigious Silver IBPA Benjamin Franklin Award in the Body/Mind/Spirit category! Join us in celebrating the latest of 5 regional and national awards for Deep Living with the Enneagram: […]
April 13, 2021

Audio Meditation: The Heart as An Inner Refuge

How is your heart? We invite you to take the next few minutes to turn inwards, paying attention to the sensations and messages from your heart center. In this meditation, […]
March 15, 2021

Deep Living Institute Is Now Deep Living Lab

To Our Deep Living Community, For many years, we as coaches, teachers, facilitators, and authors have learned together under the umbrella of The Deep Living Institute.  With careful reflection, we […]
March 8, 2021

Beyond Duality Retreat: The Communal Heart

We hope to see you at our next virtual retreat, where we will explore the Portal of Communion, represented by the horizontal line between Enneagram Points 7 and 2. This […]
February 23, 2021

Messages from Your True Nature

“The experience of needing to change what we think is inherently wrong with ourselves is deeply rooted in the personality structure. The experience of the great loss [for each type] […]
December 14, 2020

Entryways to Stillness

Photo credit: Laurie Cummins Listen to this blog post: I invite you to take two conscious breaths before reading on………. And then with the next breath, allow yourself to settle […]
December 13, 2020

How Does Anxiety Show Up for You?

With anxiety we can use different words that describe our experience of it.  Our personal experiences are just that – personal.  And yet, there is a familiarity / connection when […]
November 25, 2020

Thanksgiving and the Dimensions of Gratitude

The Deep Living Institute Team wishes you and your loved ones a safe and happy Thanksgiving, and offer you these readings on gratitude and new perspectives on this holiday. Read […]
October 30, 2020

A Little Bit of Light

This is a challenging time.  There is a lot happening.  Social discord, continuing pandemic concerns, and the outcome of the US election (impacting every nation on earth) are all converging […]
September 3, 2020

Coming Back to Presence Through Our Bodies

Are you finding yourself in your head most of the time these days? It’s easy to forget that we have these bodies – and hearts – in addition to our […]
July 15, 2020

Calling Ourselves In to Antiracism Work

A Conversation with Deep Living Coaches Irma Velasquez and Brian Mitchell-Walker The Deep Living Institute team believes that for those of us in a position of privilege, we must listen, educate […]
June 18, 2020

We Stand with Survivors of Abuse

This is a difficult letter to write.  A high-profile leader in the Enneagram community, Chris Heuertz, was recently accused of serious allegations involving the psychological and spiritual abuse of power […]
March 31, 2020

How Do We Prepare for the New We Are Experiencing?

Let Grace In The atmosphere of our world is pregnant with anxiety, fear, and panic as we approach a new frontier in the age of Covid-19.  Hyper-focus on all that […]
February 28, 2020

Pain as a Doorway for Love

I have been preoccupied with questions about pain lately. This didn’t start as an intellectual endeavor, but rather as the result of a few significant losses–both my own and of […]
February 6, 2020

Notes from the “Field” – Resonance

I’ve been thinking lately about how I can better express and share my passion for the subject of resonance and the vibrational field of which we are a part. This […]
December 31, 2019

The First Brush Stroke on A Blank Canvas

Uncertainty and the creative process I have been drawing ever since I can remember, and it is an obsession that brings me both great agony and tremendous pleasure. After decades […]
November 22, 2019

Greeting the New Decade & Meeting this New Moment

How are we holding the coming of a new decade? What makes thinking about a new decade different than meeting a new year?  How is it different than meeting each […]
November 7, 2019

Opening the Heart through Gratitude

When I witness the many ways either I am struggling, or any part of creation is struggling, it is hard to feel anything.  In the past I have been great […]
October 8, 2019

Repeated Phrases Tell a Story of Their Own

How many of us have experienced the gift of someone who has noticed our repeating phrases or stories? How has this precious way of caring affected us? My heart opens as I recall all who express their care for me in this way.
September 12, 2019

What Is Your Body Craving, Right Now?

How 9/11 started me on the path to a deeper connection with my body – and myself. I opened my eyes on September 12, 2001 and gazed at the light […]
August 15, 2019

Becoming Mom: A Deep Living Practice

In February 2001, I traveled to China to adopt my first child. I had been working with the Enneagram for several years, but my understanding was still quite limited. At […]
June 28, 2019

Join Roxanne & Deep Living Institute at the IEA Global Conference

Roxanne Howe-Murphy will present: Beyond Duality: An Invitation to Experiencing the Intersection of our Infinite and Finite Nature. You are invited to learn about and engage with the EnneaCross(TM), an evolving framework, now in development for over six years, which supports the spiritual journey.
June 24, 2019

No Escaping Reality: The Deep Living Practice of “Being With”

Deep Living is a practical approach to transformation. In this deeply personal share, one of our teachers shares how she has used our practice of "being with" to face some of her most difficult realities.
May 20, 2019

New Doorways To A Less-Conditioned Self

The four horizontal lines at the core of the EnneaCross™ represent four dimensions of our finite nature, each of which is embedded with specific attributes of the human condition and its psychological dilemmas..
May 11, 2019

The Cord

A central experience around my mother was the cutting of my umbilical core. Was the cord mine, hers or ours? What I remember most about my early relationship with my mother is that it was one of searching, longing, and working towards a connection with her. Even when growing up in a Latin culture surrounded by ...
March 18, 2019

Crossing To Wholeness

What is the Cross in the EnneaCross™? In writing my new book, the meaning of the cross is one of the big questions I have faced. I couldn’t have been […]
February 21, 2019

Have you remembered to look up today?

To allow your awareness to float down into your being, below the level of mental activity, to connect with your grounded belly and your spacious heart, to then take in […]
February 18, 2019

Notes from the “Field” – Life is Not Easy

Life Is Not Easy I read once that there is no evidence that life gets easier or that people get happier by being on a personal growth or spiritual path. […]
January 10, 2019

The Arising Of The EnneaCross™

I began the early stages of working on the first draft of this newest, untitled book about 6 months ago.  The material has been working me for the last several […]
January 10, 2019

Just Start

“Just start.  Just start sharing the experience of writing this book!”  That’s the recurring message that has refused to fade away. In my personal experience, the process of writing has […]
December 6, 2018

Notes from the “Field” – Beyond Your Recall

You Sent Out Beyond Your Recall My favourite poem, which I recite to myself most days, is Rainer Maria Rilke’s “Go To The Limits of Your Longing” from The Book […]
October 5, 2018

Notes from the “Field” Today

Our Personal Field Have you noticed how the interactions you have in daily life are affected by your own state of more or less presence? Of course you have! If […]
June 30, 2018

Wise Teachers

My son Aaron has been a wise teacher. In the twenty-five years that he has shared my life, I have learned many lessons. The most powerful ones have led to […]
April 3, 2018

Notes From The “Field” Welcome

Welcome to the Deep Living Conversation We are beginning here what we trust will be a rich and varied Deep Living conversation. I am offering my Notes From the “Field” […]
March 27, 2014

An Enduring Lesson From Deep Living

It’s been just a year since the publication of Deep Living: Transforming Your Relationship to Everything That Matters through the Enneagram. My own experiences of deep living have continued to […]
October 18, 2013

Whole-Hearted Embrace of an Awakening Life

As I write, I am aglow. I just had the privilege of leading my second phone call with a group of inmates in a federal corrections facility who are studying […]
August 11, 2013

Personality As a Primary Root of Distress

After a coaching session, a client remarked that she had experienced what she called spiritual chiropractic during our work. She said that her body had an internal shift, an energetic […]
April 30, 2013

How Do We Know Ourselves?

This weekend, my husband and I attended a rather tongue-in-cheek “Hollywood’ party where costumes were encouraged. We decided to go for it, and assumed the identities of King Arthur and […]
April 4, 2013

A Fresh Take on Personal Development #2

Almost everyone wants to know more about who they are, to feel whole and completely at home within themselves. We want to be loving and to be loved. And it […]
March 27, 2013

A Fresh Take on Personal Development

I’ve fallen in love again—with a cello! A couple of months ago, I acquired this beauty, and it’s a wonderful addition to my life. And even though I have a […]
January 4, 2013

Making Room for Your Inner Authority

While it’s not something talked about in “polite” conversation, here is one thing everyone in the world has in common: the inner critic. It is found in every hard-held opinion […]
October 5, 2012

Reclaim Your Corn

Taos Pueblo, a Native American village, is considered by many to be the oldest continuously inhabited community in the U.S. Located in Taos, New Mexico; it has been inhabited for over 1,000 years. This last week-end, my husband and I attended a celebration at the pueblo encouraging and honoring the ritual of growing corn on the pueblo. It was a humbling and inspiring experience.
October 3, 2012

The Passing of a Teacher, Friend and Colleague

It has been just over a month since Don Richard Riso passed from this earth. I’ve been wanting to write about Don, honoring the astonishing body of work on the Enneagram that he discovered and has been refining since his early introduction to the system in 1973, his far-reaching impact, and his unparalleled significance in my own life, but the words to share publicly evaded me. They didn’t seem adequate. Many others have been writing their memories of Don, and it seemed I needed to wait. Now is the time.
August 21, 2012

The Vertical Dimension of the Personality

Do you ever wonder why, in the same day, you can experience totally different levels of happiness and fulfillment? You might be going about your regular routine, feeling fine, and then make a phone call, and find yourself reeling into anger or frustration. Later in the day, after a positive encounter with a friend, you feel upbeat. Why?
August 14, 2012

Real Choice

I love my new “hometown,” beautiful Santa Fe, New Mexico. My husband and I have been visiting the astonishing high desert area in Northern New Mexico since 1988, lived in the area in spurts at different times, and finally, heeded the call to put down our roots here.
August 7, 2012

Is the Critic Having Its Way With You?

I was recently listening to TV host and comic, David Letterman interviewing the young and now popular star of a blow-out film bringing in megabucks. When he asked about her experience in the film, she replied with the usual enthusiasm for the cast and director. There was just one caveat. The casting, she emphasized, was perfect except for one person—her.
August 3, 2012

It’s a Journey of a Lifetime

My name is Roxanne Howe-Murphy. By way of introduction to this blog about this astonishing human journey that we are on, and how we might come into a deeper relationship with ourselves, with others, and with Reality, I wanted to share a few thoughts about my own journey.